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Why Some Men Don't Express Their Emotions
By Jeffrey Overall Feb 2, 2021
.Sigmund Freud argued that: “ … unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and they will come forth later in uglier ways.” If emotions remain unexpressed, they can surface in passive aggressive ways. Overtime, unexpressed emotions are stored in the body and, eventually, can cause physical health issues, like high blood pressure.
Fathers
By James Morgan
Chestnut Counselling
In order for fathers to be involved with their children mothers have to make room for them. If Mom has been the one who is primarily "in charge" of the children it becomes very easy for Dad to become her assistant. He gets delegated jobs when she needs help. Now that's OK some of the time. We all need help with "our" jobs at times. But the problem with that approach is two-fold.
The Measure of a Man
By James Morgan
Chestnut Counselling
Men start being measured from a very early age. I don't know when it starts. Certainly by the time we are in high school it is well in place. How fast can you run? How much can you lift? How good are your grades? What awards have you earned?
These external indicators of masculine identity continue as we grow older. How much to you earn? How good is your job? What kind of car do you drive? How big is your house? How pretty is your wife? The list seems endless.
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The Importance of Trust in a Relationship
Posted on January 22, 2019
By Lori Jean Glass
www.lovetopivot.com
Do you ever get a feeling that something isn’t right in your relationship? You may not know why, but more than likely, it’s because you are lacking trust in your relationship.
If that is the case, then seeking out professional relationship coaches who can help you build trust in a relationship through an intensive workshop or via facetime, may be the right course of action. Read on to learn how to tell if you lack trust in your relationships and why trust is so important.
In an interview, Dr. John Gottman was once asked what to do about “insatiable jealousy” in relationships.
His response hit on something really profound for me.
"I believe that every person has areas of enduring vulnerability. For a marriage to succeed, these vulnerabilities need to be understood and honored."
This flips jealousy on its head. Instead of something to avoid in relationships, jealousy becomes an opportunity to connect. In her book “Daring Greatly” Brene Brown writes, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.”
When you understand why you get jealous, you can manage it in a way that is compassionate and constructive. Recognizing and embracing your partner’s enduring vulnerabilities, as well as your own, will strengthen your relationship.
All relationships, even the most successful ones, have conflict. It is unavoidable. Fortunately, our research shows that it’s not the appearance of conflict, but rather how it’s managed that predicts the success or failure of a relationship. We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve,” because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects that provide opportunities for growth and understanding.
And there are problems that you just won’t solve due to natural personality differences between you and your partner, but if you can learn to manage those problems in a healthy way, then your relationship will succeed.
The first step in effectively managing conflict is to identify and counteract The Four Horsemen when they arrive in your conflict discussions. If you don’t, you risk serious problems in the future of your relationship. But, like Newton’s Third Law, for every horseman there is an antidote, and you can learn how and when to use them...